This is a complicated question, spanning across the areas of philosophy and spirituality. Do I believe in fate? No. I think every person has free will and the right to use it; I feel that fate is for people waiting for something to be handed to them. I do, however, think that people “belong” in certain places or professions, or at least gravitate towards something naturally. Some might call that destiny. I don’t think so. While people may feel they are destined to do/be something, it may not turn out that way. Even if it does, a person blazes his or her own trail to get there. It’s not destiny, it’s giving in to your true wants that you may not even be conscious of. Deep down, I believe instinct, the id, eventually finds a way of leading us where we need to be.
So what about those trails we’re blazing? Do the individual events that occur on our journey to our ultimate wants and dreams happen for reasons? From a spiritual perspective, I say maybe. I think it’s up to us to find meaning in our day to day experiences and interpret it. It’s more about learning from mistakes and making the decision to move forward than decoding petty occurrences.
While on the subject of spirituality, I’d like to state that I do believe in some sort of higher power. Whether you want to call it “God” or not, I believe it’s there. I also believe that this higher power is innately good. The question is, does this power completely dominate our lives? As a believer in free will, I’m going to say no. I think we’re free to live our lives the way we please, chase our dreams, and do what we want. I believe this power is present in our lives, but not domineering.
I know from my personal experience that I have had moments that felt so right, that made me feel like I was supposed to be where I was doing what I was doing. It’s not happiness; it’s bliss. This feeling, at least for me, starts a chain reaction of appreciation for what I have, who I know, what I can do, etc.
Is it happening for a reason? Perhaps. We go through life freely, but occasionally someone might intercede. Interpret life the way you want. In the end, whatever makes you the most happy is the right choice. Things might not happen for specific reasons, but I think people “happen” for reasons. We are supposed to be here.